Praying for your Child’s Relationships

Praying for your Child’s Relationships

How many of you remember the song Friends by Whodini?  Friends.  How many of us have them?  Friends.  Ones we can depend on?  Friends.  How many of us have them?  

How many of you were singing along as you read?  I know I was bobbin my head as I typed it!  For the younger generation who may not know this song, I implore you to open your Apple music or your Spotify app and listen to the song. 

I was listening to my old school playlist (I'll have to share it with you all in one of my next blogs) and this song came on.  I immediately thought about all the people that I called "friends."  Like many of you, I'm sure the lyrics to this song touch way too close to home.  To this day I have people that I called friends and time revealed that they were not the friend that I thought they were.  I have learned over the years that people come in and out of my life like seasons.  Some of them hurt me and used me.  Some just were not like-minded.  Others I still call friends, but life happens and we don't talk like we used to.  Although most of my friendships have ended, I am thankful for them and what they taught me.  

As I reminisced about these relationships, I began to think about my daughters and the relationships they are beginning to build.  I think about how I don't want them to have to deal with the heartache I had with my so-called friends.  And it dawned on me that I need to pray for my daughters' relationships.  I want them to have a discerning spirit to know who are good friends and who will simply be associates.  I want them to understand that their friends may be their friends for a season, but not to haste as God will ALWAYS be there.  I want them to know that just because we pray for God to bring the right friends into their lives does not mean they won't get hurt.  And I want my girls to learn how to be a good friend.

Friendships play an important role in our lives and it's important that we begin now and pray not only for our friendships but for our children's as well.  Here are six things that you should pray concerning your child's friendships.


God said that He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5).  That means He will be there even when their friends are not.  Pray that your child will know that they are never alone.  The Lord our God is always there!  We just have to pick up the phone and call.


It's not about having friends, it's about having friends who are good to them.  Pray that your child will make wise choices when choosing friends, selecting to befriend those who too are wise.  Proverbs 13:20 says whoever walks with the wise becomes wise.


In order to have friends, your child must learn how to be friends.  Simply summed up, do to others as you would have them do you (Luke 6:31).  Pray that your child will be friendly and understands what it takes to be a good friend (Proverbs 18:24.).


Pray that your child will not participate in bad mouthing or gossip.  The tongue is powerful and many times can break up your child's friendships.  Proverbs 16:28 says gossip separates the best of friends.


Friends are people like you and will make mistakes.  The letter to the Ephesians instructs us how to live a life that honors God.  Through this letter, we learn that as Christians we should forgive one another -Ephesians 4:32.  Pray that your child will understand friends are not perfect and they should love them at all times (Proverbs 17:17).


In Genesis 1-11, God established tribes and tongues and nations.  This is the first sign of diverse people.  The word diversity is not used in the bible, yet it is prevalent throughout.  Mathew 28:19 says therefore go and make disciples of all nations.  In you all the nations shall be blessed (Galatians 3:8 NKJV).  Diversity is the celebration of what God made…man.  How many are your works, Lord!  In wisdom you made them all; the earth is full of your creatures (Psalm 104:24 NIV).  Teach your child to appreciate the marvelous works of God.  Pray that your child will cultivate diverse friendships.


How can your child become the person that God purposed them for if they are surrounded by "yes men?"  Pray that your child's friends will speak the truth in love and not hate (Ephesians 4:15).  Listen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end you will be counted among the wise. –Proverbs 19:20 NIV


We should strive to have friendships as we have with Jesus (John 15:12-13).

Just like the friendship, we have with Christ (John 15:12-15) our child's friendships should demonstrate grace, mercy, compassion, love, and forgiveness.


Have you prayed for your child's relationships?  If so, what did you pray for?



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